On Children (or the lack there-of) and Family

September 1st, 2010

I just read this and HAD to share:

http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/09/reclaiming-wife-why-wife-mother-do-not-have-to-go-together-part-ii

Especially this part because this is JUST how I feel:

Or as commenter Marina said last week:

As someone who’s sure I want kids, and soon (I mean, scared sh*tless, but sure) I just want to add that I am SO GRATEFUL that I have friends who want kids but not for a long time, and friends who do not want kids ever, period. I have friends in the first category who have told me they’re looking forward to babysitting duties and knitting little baby clothes, which, oh boy, I would be a LOT more scared about having kids if I didn’t have that kind of community around. And my friends in the second category, who do not want babies, who will never want babies–I am so thankful for them. I don’t want to get lost in my child(ren), and I feel so lucky to have people in my life who I know I will be able to hang out with and talk about things that are NOT related to babies. So all y’all who are decidedly against babies, or ambivalent, or all the other messy permutations of decision-making–I’m glad YOU’RE part of my community too. I know having lots of smart sassy women I can read at a moment’s notice will make me a better mom, and is already making me a better person.

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Introversion

August 11th, 2010
introversion

From: http://www.creators.com/advice/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/the-larva-of-the-party.html

Ever since Freud decided (sans evidence) that introverts were repressed, narcissistic trolls under the bridge, extraversion has been considered the ideal and introverts have been seen as socially stunted. Introversion is also wrongly conflated with shyness, but shyness is fear- and shame-based — quite different from seeing no reason to say anything to strangers unless you or they are on fire.

More and more, research points to a strong biological basis for personality. Brain imaging shows distinct differences in introverts and extraverts. Studies by neuroscientist Debra L. Johnson and others found that extraverts, who get energized from external stimulation like meeting new people, have increased blood flow to rear areas of the brain for sensory processing (like listening, touching, watching). Introverts, who tend to be more pensive and introspective, and are easily overwhelmed by too much external stimulation, showed more blood flow altogether (indicating more internal stimulation), over more complicated pathways, with more activity in frontal regions for inward tasks like problem-solving, reasoning, and remembering.

Put that together with a Chinese study adding evidence that introverts get socked with a higher level of cortical arousal from stimuli, and you get the idea that urging introverts to be more outgoing is a bit like urging scissors to be more like a stapler.

The funny part is, I have no problem understanding the differences between introversion and extroversion, but most of the extroverts I know are just utterly baffled by introversion even when I show them stuff like this. Which is why my catch phrase is: You don’t have to understand, you just have to accept.

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Google Voice Leaves Beta, Now Open to Everyone

July 13th, 2010

http://lifehacker.com/5569903/google-voice-leaves-beta-now-open-to-everyone

“Until today, Google Voice was a neat service you needed to be invited into. Now Google’s thrown open the doors, letting in anyone (in the U.S.) wanting One Number to Rule Them All—or just web-based voicemail on your current number.”

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Japantown

July 11th, 2010

Went to the Obon festival in San Jose yesterday – it was fun but a lot smaller than I expected. We got to see the dancing though which is what I really wanted, though I was hoping for more Japanese street fair food. Also, JP was in the news about the festival and the same article mentioned this:

“one of only three Japantowns left in the United States. The other two are in San Francisco and Los Angeles.”

So sad there are only three, and two in the Bay Area!

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Daily thoughts for 2010-07-10

July 10th, 2010
  • Mermaid's Neptune Brownie sundae is meh. #

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Argh, TwitterTools hasn’t been working.

July 6th, 2010

Next time I’m in LA I must try their ice cream: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMnpWYaCKB0

Toy Story 3 was great (in 3D with dad & pirate), Monsters vs Aliens was cute (with mom & bro) and frozen Cioppino (TJ’s) is a BAD idea.

Emergency visit to dentist, bad, not needing a root canal on the tooth with a crown, GOOD! 1:08 PM Jul 2nd

Sweet, I just updated to Android 2.2, lots of nice new stuff! http://developer.android.com/sdk/android-2.2-highlights.html

The sun was shining through the clouds this morning and half the sky was covered with rays of light. Too bad I didn’t bring my phone/camera! 1:39 PM Apr 16th

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What I need to do.

June 23rd, 2010

Penelope Trunk:

So I have started chanting a mantra to myself, (which I found on Lifehacker), that I think is going to help. The chant is all the productivity books in the world, distilled down to eleven words:

One thing at a time. Most important thing first. Start now.

Good advice, so – I’m gonna go get caught up on scanning and shredding.

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Free font of your own handwriting. Sunday May 9th only.

May 5th, 2010

Just thought I’d share the fun:

As a thank you, we give you a special Mother’s Day coupon that allows you to make as many fonts as you like for FREE! Of course the coupon can only be used during Mother’s Day; May 9, 2010.
Use coupon CPN4MOM2010 when you check out and receive your font for free!

http://www.yourfonts.com/fontgenerator/25.html

Remember to use this coupon when you check out:
CPN4MOM2010

This offer is only valid May 9, 2010.

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This is why I started blogging

April 28th, 2010

I didn’t want to write things 50 times, but I didn’t want to leave folks out either. Or overwhelm my busier friends. With blogging, everyone can choose how closely they follow my life, or not, as the case may be. You have the power! ;)

From: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/

1. Email is inefficient.

Email is one-to-one communication and social networks one-to-many communication. (Here’s a good link about that.) If you have something meaningful or thoughtful to say, why not say it to many people? It would mean that more people share ideas and more people understand your way of thinking. Also, there are so many pieces of our life that we tell at different times to different people. Why not just say it once? We all have email overload: we parse our messages into 40 one-to-one messages instead of just a single one-to-many message.

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April 19th, 2010

Saw this bouncing along as it was returning from Picnic Day on Saturday, but didn't get a photo, so here's one I found on flickr: http://www.flickr.com/photos/27047646@N00/3897306076/

Pulled way too many weeds in the morning, then had lunch at Chuy's (nachos don't have nearly enough cheese, but quesadilla was great) and sat outside next to the awesome smelling jasmine, then birthday party in Sac with good friends and good food!

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