off on the blogging as I try to get myself back in shape. I think things are finally starting to come together again though as I get into stuff that I enjoy, without going overboard like I have in the past.
The good part
From: naked relationships 2005-07-08 column
When we sacrifice our values for image, we also give up a piece of who we are. And that means giving up some self-esteem. We can’t feel good about ourselves unless we align our choices with our values.
Trying to score well with others – particularly those whose values differ from ours – is self-defeating and leaves us with less to offer in a relationship.
If you do what you need to do for you, your life will speak for itself. People will see the fruit of a life well lived.
If they wish to judge you based on something else, that’s their problem. You cannot fix it. You can fix your problem. They cannot stop you or shame you. Only you can do that.
And the real shame lies in denying your authentic self for a false image of who you are – or who somebody else wishes you to be. The image is created, often unknowingly, to compensate for what we think we are missing. But we are not missing anything that cannot be found in our authentic self.