This morning the ducks were all splishing and splashing taking morning baths. I stopped to watch two adorable tree squirrels spiral down around and around a tree trunk chasing each other. And a white heron had found something underwater to stand on and appeared to be magically floating an inch above the water.
I had a doctor’s appointment this morning, so I managed to drop off my rose at the office to enjoy this week. All last night Khalua was crying at the fridge because she saw me hide it in there.
Oh, and I was wondering yesterday where everyone was, the bike path was so empty. Duh! Rainy weather = people wimping out and taking the bus! Hehe.
I just remembered that there was this bit I wanted to share from one of the columns I read. The important part of the whole article:
“Sternberg proposes a triangular theory of love, in which love has three components: intimacy, passion and commitment. You bring some combination of the three together to make the kind of love you want – or don’t want.
Kinds of love:
Perfect – intimacy, passion and commitment
Shallow – passion and commitment
Companionate – intimacy and commitment
Romantic – intimacy and passion
Empty – commitment
Infatuated – passion
Liking – intimacy
Non-love – absence of all three
Before you profess one kind of love, look at how Sternberg defines the three components to see which ones you truly have:
Intimacy – psychological knowledge of each other (and connection based on that)
Passion – erotic attraction
Commitment – the decision that a person loves another person and the commitment to maintain that love. ”
And this came from Tora’s lady’s blog, and I agree! I think it applies to any romantic relationship. I haven’t read The Prophet in ages, it was really good though.
“I’ll just leave you with one of my favorite quotes about marriage. It’s by Kahlil Gibran and is from “The Prophet.” His words speak so very truly about being a complete, individual person. Don’t lose sight of the fact that you are a whole person in and of yourself! You have hobbies and interests and memories and a life outside of your husband, but you share and cherish each other, as two pillars of a temple stand strongly and independently to hold up the “roof” of marriage. To make your marriage stronger, make yourself stronger, and look for ways to strengthen your bonds.
On Marriage
Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?”
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
From Dert”
