From June 13, 2003
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
• You become most comfortable in situations when the best offense is a good defense. You seldom act aggressively towards others, but will demonstrate a passive resistance from time to time.
• When treated fairly, you can be sound and stable and seen as a dedicated and devoted individual. You hesitate to say no and will seldom, if ever, attack.
• You are rather quiet and modest. You tend not to show assertiveness and are never domineering or egocentric. You prefer others to be in the spotlight rather than yourself.
• When meeting new people, you may be rather unassuming and mild mannered. You will be cooperative and easygoing in social groups and family events, because of an inherent need not to make waves or cause hostility.
• You may be well thought of because you rarely antagonize others or rarely want the spotlight.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
• Because of a need to avoid confrontation, you may not express an opinion. As a result, you may go along with others, even if you disagree with the activity, sacrificing your own self-interests to accommodate others.
• You would most likely not consider yourself an extremist on various issues, or in socializing with others. You do not need to be the center of attention like others, and in fact may feel rather uncomfortable when in the limelight.
• Your style shows you to be a much better listener than many other styles. You will listen carefully and attend to what others say. People who are talkative by nature may seek you out because of the natural audience you provide.
• In some new situations you may become somewhat unsure because of your need to feel secure in most activities. You will warm up to the new people or event in your own time.
• You generally communicate with others in a mild-mannered way. You do not like to make waves and create disharmony. As a result, you may defer your own ideas to those of others.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
• Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
• Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.
• Take time during explanations.
• Provide personal support and assurance.
• Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
• Listen sincerely.
• Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
• Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.
• Show sincere interest as a person.
• Ask “How” questions to draw out opinions.
• Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
• You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
• You are generally very patient with people.
• You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
• You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.
• You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
• You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.
• You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don’t like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
• You tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations.
• You are a dependable and caring partner.
• You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion.
• You are excellent at listening to your partner.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
• A friendly, favorable social environment.
• A support system to help you get things done.
• To feel safe and secure in social situations.
• Support of your ideas and dreams.
• Partners who practice listening and participation.
• Status quo.
• Recognition for your loyalty.
• An audience to perform to and entertain.
• A feeling of security.
• Sincerity offered from others.
• To feel important, but not be the leader.
• Equal relations with others.
