Archive for March, 2007

Randomness

Friday, March 23rd, 2007
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Speaking up uploading my photos to flickr… two of them are actually of me. I ran into a Japanese lady walking Putah Creek and taking photos like I was, I greeted her and made a comment about both of us taking pictures, and she asked me to take one of her. So we swapped cameras and took two pictures of each other. And that made me think of how many times I’ve been stopped and asked for directions since moving here to Davis, by people in cars, on bikes and walking. It makes me feel good to help people, but I’m surprised by how often it happens.


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Originally uploaded by JennyUsagi.


Spring Catch-up

Friday, March 23rd, 2007
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First a PSA: Pet food recall - see the list of products recalled.

Random tid-bits:

I forgot to link to the site after watching An Inconvenient Truth, so here is their Take Action page (the home page is noisy).

Laser engraving on laptops. Looks neat and sturdier than stickers, but not good for those of us who change their minds a lot. Plus it’s not cheap.

Mac Laptop = Cat Toy video. Thankfully my cats aren’t like this… I don’t think.

More of the monster/ugly dolls.

Uploaded 138 or 139 new photos: http://www.flickr.com/photos/liata/


Mar 20:Went to dinner at Dos with one of HK’s coworker friends and then put away laundry and did dishes and HK took out the trash and recycling for me. So nice not to walk out and see the kitchen and go “Ugh!” I’m definitely putting some of the house profit toward a dishwasher, it’s just not worth the time and stress of hand washing everything. And I probably waste hot water doing it myself anyway. I really like how the new curtains on the sliding glass door turned out, though I think I want to add a few more panels at some point.Mar 19:This guy’s stuff has been around for a while, but since I can’t find the original video I saw, here’s another: http://studio.vpod.tv/loiclemeur/135867

Also, I hate the time changes, they always mess up my sleep schedule. Slowly getting back on track. I smelled brownies walking back to my office and now I’m craving them. Thankfully I have hot chocolate mix (and chili, nutmeg & cinnamon to add to it).

I got a lot done this weekend, cleaned up my piles of paperwork, finally got the curtains up with HK’s help and a few loads of laundry. That plus much napping & relaxing which is the main thing I needed. HK & I went to Johnny Carrino’s in Natomas after his haircut Friday, but we filled up on bread and soup and ended up eating the leftovers the rest of the weekend. The asthma pill (Singulair) is working hella good and my allergies seem to have settled down without taking the Clartin stuff, yippee!

And! Good news! My house might actually close before April after all which would be awesome. One less mortgage payment to pay. :D

Mar 17:

This sounds fun: Spring Party on Saturday 4/14/07…All you can drink beer and Margaritas, Fresh Mexican food, Wonderbread 5, DJ Rigatoni, Mechanical Bull and Gladiator Style Jousting….all for $35 and all proceeds go to local children’s charities!! Go to www.awildnightincabo.com.

Mar 16:

My office is so cold. I’m thinking of bringing in a throw or something. Rugs would be good if I had any. I have a space heater, but I blew the circuit the time I moved it to another plug to get it under my desk. An electric blanket would work better. I wouldn’t lose all my warm air every time my boss pops in and doesn’t shut the door most of the way behind him.

Mar 15:

Painted my toenails pink at work during lunch, and managed to not smudge them, yay! Now I can actually wear sandals sometimes.

Mar 14:

Had a ton of weird dreams last night, which for me means I didn’t sleep soundly at all or I wouldn’t remember. Probably why I was so tired this morning.

I forgot to check the racquetball rules, so my pirate and I just goofed off hitting back and forth to each other since there was a free court last night. Good workout, but it did not help my headache. It was fun though, and my headache didn’t get too bad till the last 10 minutes ish.


Article stuffs
I used to read Psychology Today when I TA’d in my high school library all the time. Now I have it on my Google homepage so I’m back into reading it again. Just in case you’re wondering how I find this stuff:Hormones Got You Down?

Hormones may play a pivotal role in women’s maladies—including PMS, post-partum, and others.
By:Natasha Raymond”research shows it’s not just the psychological stress of aging, childbirth, or cramps that brings on the blues. It’s the physiological factor that ties them together—hormones.”"Hormones released by the ovaries—estrogen and progesterone—actually seem to influence the neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine, that are known to affect mood. Normally, estrogen blocks enzymes that break serotonin down, allowing more of the spirit-lifting substance to stay operative in the brain and act like an antidepressant. But before menstruation, after giving birth, and during menopause, when estrogen levels dip, serotonin levels plunge, too.”

Love Isn’t Blind

How to form an enduring bond. Healthy relationships are built on love and trust, commitment and intimacy.
By:Hara Estroff Marano

“These are the five bonding forces that form the glue of your relationship, he stresses. And here’s the catch—they must grow together in a balanced way. You must keep your heart and your head in harmony. So you never let one of the five forces too far ahead of your progress in any of the others.

* Know
* Trust
* Rely
* Commit
* Touch

In other words, says Van Epp, there’s a safe zone you need to stay within as your relationship grows. And the basic rule for staying in the safe zone is, never let the level of one bonding dynamic exceed the level of the previous one. “

Swallow Your Fear

Navigating risky situations teaches you about yourself, increases your self-confidence, and helps you better manage life’s inevitable uncertainties.
By:Jessica DuLong

“”It’s the heightened awareness in physical risk taking that’s so valuable,” says Michael Gass … “The limited stimulus field helps people weed out less important information.” In the face of danger, instinct takes over. Your attention becomes keenly focused on your body and your surroundings. ”

“Once you accomplish this, you realize that you are not a victim of your emotions, that you can override them if you want.”

“Just as shocking the muscles makes them grow stronger, confronting your fears makes you realize you can live with stress. “Any time you’re afraid to do something and you do it, it makes you stronger,” he says. “Even if you fail.”"

“”Physical risk taking is beneficial because it’s a consequential, obvious statement of what you’re able to do,” says Gass. And the ability to handle adversity can generalize into the less dangerous—but no less fraught—realms of personal and professional life. It was Stanford researcher Albert Bandura who first articulated the idea that greater feelings of self-efficacy produce increased effort and persistence on a task and, ultimately, a higher level of performance.”

“Self-determination in the face of uncertainty helps develop a strong sense of self. ”

“”The more practice you have in situations where you have to make rapid decisions with great consequence, the more likely you are to be able to act rather than freeze,” says Cline.”


I find evolutionary psychology fascinating! I took a class on environmental psychology that covered some of it and really enjoyed the class. Article:The Orgasm Wars

Evolutionary biologists think female orgasms may pick the best sperm.
By:PT Staff”They discovered that when a woman climaxes any time between a minute before to 45 minutes after her lover ejaculates, she retains significantly more sperm than she does after nonorgasmic sex. When her orgasm precedes her male’s by more than a minute, or when she does not have an orgasm, little sperm is retained. “”In their studies, women consistently identify as most attractive males whose faces (and other body parts) are most symmetrical.”"A large and growing body of medical literature documents that symmetrical people are physically and psychologically healthier than their less symmetrical counterparts.”

“those whose partners were most symmetrical enjoyed a significantly higher frequency of orgasms during sexual intercourse than did those with less symmetrical mates.”

“Of course, symmetry is a relative thing, and a relative rarity at that. No one is perfectly symmetrical, and very high symmetry scores were few and far between in this sample, as in others. In consolation, Thornhill and Gangestad point out that the differences they are measuring are subtle, and most require the use of calipers to detect.”

“Degree of women’s romantic attachment did not increase the frequency of orgasm! Nor did the sexual experience of either partner. Conventional wisdom holds that birth control and protection from disease up orgasm rates, since they allow women to feel more relaxed during intercourse. But no relationship emerged between female orgasm and the use of contraception.

Nor can the study results be explained by the possibility that the symmetrical males were dating especially uninhibited and orgasmic women. Their partners did not have more orgasms during foreplay or in other sexual activities. Male symmetry correlated with a high frequency of female orgasm only during copulation.”

“He points to the following results as among those we should take to heart:

o A woman’s capacity for orgasm depends not on her partner’s sexual skill but on her subconscious evaluation of his genetic merits.
o Women’s orgasm has little to do with love. Or experience.
o Good men are indeed hard to find.
o The men with the best genes make the worst mates.
o Women are no more built for monogamy than men are. They are designed to keep their options open.
o Women fake orgasm to divert a partner’s attention from their infidelities.”


Not terribly scientific, the comments are more interesting than the article:Female Gamers Have More Sex

“According to a survey conducted by Gametart, a game rental service in the UK, chicks who game get more lovin’ than those who don’t. Out of a sample of 200 ladies (or should that be “laid-ees”?), the ones who gamed got, erm, fragged 1.1 more times a week than those who didn’t.”


And from one of the columns I read that also happened to look at evolution’s effect:The Pig Picture
The Advice Goddess by Amy Alkon

“The truth is, as you suspected, straight guys just don’t have the filth and disarray vision that women and gay men do. Studies show gay men’s attention to environmental detail is similar to that of straight women, but in general, “the female brain takes in more sensory data than does the male,” writes brain researcher Michael Gurian in “What Could He Be Thinking?” How much more visual detail does the female brain take in? Well, in an object recall test by York University psychologists Irwin Silverman and Marion Eals, women remembered the name and placement of 70 percent more items than the men did.”"Men can be obsessive about detail, explains Gurian, but their mental and visual attention is usually single-minded and achievement-oriented. “”According to Silverman, Eals, and other researchers, a guy’s tendency to let his home become a pizza crust wilderness refuge probably traces back to our hunter-gatherer past. Men’s current visual and attentional strengths correspond to what would’ve made them successful hunters: the distance vision and mental focus needed to track and bring home dinner — instead of being eaten by what was supposed to be dinner. Women’s superior peripheral vision and ability to process detail would’ve helped them spot the family’s favorite edible plants in a big tangle of vegetation — while making sure the children weren’t playing in wildebeest traffic.

Culture or training may mitigate the modern man’s natural crud-blindness.”

DG for Pi Day

Wednesday, March 14th, 2007
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A healthy body to bike with.

Sunbathing squirrels.

Spring flowers.

Air on the skin and wind in the hair.

Sunglasses.

A program to download all my photos from flickr to replace what was on my hard drive.

Finally getting caught up on a project.

Happy Pie/Pi/3.14 Day!

Wednesday, March 14th, 2007
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HomeTech ApartmentTherapy: Feel the Geeky Love: Happy Pi Day! Today’s date matches the first numbers of the venerable number that never ends: 3.14.

Cool coffee table design (though way more than I would consider paying) coffee table

News: Digital TV Transition Subsidies

To aid in the Digital TV transition, households with at least one TV set will be able to request up to two $40 coupons meant to subsidize the cost of purchasing digital to analog converter boxes. The converters are expected to cost around $50, but make sure you get in line quickly, applications for the first wave of coupons valued up to $990 milion will begin January 1, 2008…..and continue until there is no more money available. Somehow, we think that won’t take long.

- via the New York Times:

U.S. Sets Rules for Digital TV Payments
By BLOOMBERG NEWS
Published: March 13, 2007

The government will offer households as much as $80 each to help convert televisions to receive digital broadcasts under a $1.5 billion program.

Households with one or more TV sets can ask for as many as two $40 coupons as long as the first allotment, of $990 million, is not depleted, according to Commerce Department rules published yesterday. If the initial amount is inadequate, an extra $510 million in coupons may be offered to households without pay-TV service.

The subsidies are intended to help consumers prepare for the end of analog TV broadcasts in February 2009. After that, TVs without digital receivers will not be able to show over-the-air broadcasts.

Sets connected to cable TV and satellite systems will not need converters, the Commerce Department said.

Converters are expected to cost about $50 each, according to Congressional testimony. Households can apply for the coupons starting Jan. 1, 2008, the Commerce Department said. Retailers who want to participate in the program must apply for certification by March 31, 2008.

<3 Papa

Monday, March 12th, 2007

I had a great time with dad on Thursday. We went and got pizza and then finished watching An Inconvenient  Truth (which I never would have chosen to watch - but it was actually really good!) and then watched the two Oprah episodes he gave me on “The Secret” (book & dvd - he gave me a copy of the dvd too) and talked about that and some stuff we read and everything, pretty awesome. A lot of it is stuff I sorta already knew, but haven’t really made a habit of yet in my life, like I used to be such a pessimist until I decided to change the way I think, and it was really hard and took a long time, but now it’s natural. I’m still in the really hard phase of changing how I think and live again. Gave me a lot to think about too. Plus papa let me copy all his music which I really like, lots of instrumental soothing peaceful stuff. And he bought me the book he’s reading called “Radical Forgiveness” and the book my therapist wanted me to get (so we could get free shipping). So I’m looking forward to reading those. They’ve been shipped and are supposed to arrive next week sometime.

Some of what I have to think about is what I have and am grateful for, and what I still want and how think and take action toward that. Even simple things like changing from thinking “I want to get out of debt.” to “I deserve to be financially comfortable.” and taking action toward that. One of the things the Oprah show mentioned was that often people who are in debt feel they are “owed” something. And I’m thinking that’s true for me. On the one hand, with growing up poor and not getting to have and do the things I wanted, I decided I didn’t want to have that when I grew up. So now I pay for activities and things that I want and feel I deserve…. and forget that I also deserve to be debt free and live unencumbered by property. So I need to learn to say to myself “I can buy that, and I do deserve to if I really want to, but I want to be debt free more.” If I try to say “I can’t afford to buy that.” then I rebel against it because it’s not true and feels like I’m saying “I don’t deserve to buy that.” Stuff like that. I just need to figure out where I am right now in all the aspects of my life - physical, financial, mental health, and my relationship with myself and others, and then decide what I’m happy with, what I’d like to change, and how to do that.

One of the great lines from the Oprah show was about how you have to be the best example of how to treat yourself. So I guess you could think of it as not expecting others to do for you what you won’t do for yourself. So if there is something you’d love to have someone else do for you…. that’s also something you should be willing to do for yourself first to set the example. Cause you know you’re worth it!

I found out I can’t eat more than 2-3 slices of pizza anymore without taking my stomach meds first. Usually I get thick or regular crust so that’s all I have room for anyway, but dad likes thin crust so I ended up eating more and it really upset my stomach. Tasted soooooooooo good, but the suffering after will keep me away from pizza for a good long while.

Oh, and Friday MM took me out for a late late lunch since he was in town for his haircut. We had yummy Pluto’s. We sat outside to eat since the weather has been awesome lately.

Warm Weather

Monday, March 12th, 2007
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Makes me want a hammock to nap in, and a shady porch to eat lunch on. I just love porches. Small ones, big ones, and anything in between.

house with a porch

Lizards & Squirrels & Butterflies Oh My!

Monday, March 12th, 2007
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Scurrying, skittering, slithering by
Fluttering, flittering, flying so high

I biked over to pick up my car from it’s smog check and then drove home and biked back to work. And the DMV let me register online now (it wouldn’t before when I didn’t have my smog done). One less thing to worry about getting done. :D

It’s so gorgeous out! And the critters are starting to wake up and come out more. I realized I can probably bike home for lunch and back in plenty of time when I want to. And my asthma pills seems to be working great! My allergies also seem to be almost all gone too which is lovely.

I had a great weekend too. I spent time with my pirate saturday, found out the possible termites were just ants, got my safeway delivery that I’d only ordered the night before but still got the cheap four hour window (though they came at the end so I couldn’t get my car smogged, I did drop it off though so that made it easier). My pirate brought us mexican for lunch, and I actually managed to cook chicken breasts with pasta for dinner.

Sunday TC and I hit the gym (though we missed the pilates class due to daylight savings - darn time change!), then went home for lunch and got back together for shopping at KOHL’s. I showed her and AP(m) how to trim their new cat’s nails since he’s totally sweet and mellow. We used a 2 for 1 coupon and gift cards for some way cheap ColdStone yummies and then headed out. We had waaaaay too much fun and I actually found bras, a pair of jeans and a pair of sandals that I liked which is really hard (or impossible) usually. I got a super soft robe and slippers for cheap too, and a couple really cute necklaces & pairs of earrings. Yay for sales and additional discounts!

So I wasn’t terribly productive as far as chores, but I did have an awesome weekend. My neighbor who I let use one of my parking spots mowed and raked the leaves for me yesterday while I was shopping though, so my yard looks nicer. :D

BlogMail

Friday, March 9th, 2007
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Mar 7:
Not feeling as miserable as yesterday, but that’s not really saying a ton. I was hoping I’d be up to biking, but I decided to call Meow for a ride. Didn’t get to sleep till midnight and woke up between 3-4 again last night, but I’m not actually terribly tired today. Been doing the ice pack on the head thing to deal with my headache. I might make some more of these to keep at work too.

Anyway, I am feeling somewhat better today. Took the claritin again and my nose isn’t going as crazy as it was. And no tar fumes today, yay!

My dad is coming tomorrow so it’ll be really nice to see him. He’s bringing his old monitor too so I can hook up my old computers and get the data off them.

Mar 8:
Feeling waaaaay better today. Only 15 minutes late. Dad is coming tonight too, so having dinner and getting to spend some time with him is good.

I was already slowly feeling better. Monday & Tuesday were the worst. And between my nasacort, and taking the claritin-d knock off tues & wednesday, and the singulair (for asthma but also can help with allergies) last night, I’d be worried if I didn’t feel better. I’m still stuffed up and my eyes feel weird. Not quite itchy, but not all the way better either. Coughing or sneezing every once in a while. All the outright pain stuff is gone though thankfully.
Plus he gave me a prescription for some over the counter lotion to help with the bumps on my arms that I get into picking at. So I’m taking a two pronged approach to that. Trying to follow my therapist’s advice, but also reducing what usually triggers it to start in the first place physically. Nice of him to prescribe it so maybe insurance covers it, or if not it should at least be able to come out of my HCRA, though I’ll double check first.
Actually getting a lot of work done today. And the upside to the loss of appetite with the allergy attack is I’m finally down to 140! 5lbs to go and I’m back in my normal range and can hopefully fit into all my pants again. Yay! I’m already fitting back into some of them, but I haven’t tried some of the snugger ones yet.

I try the snug ones every 5-10 pounds. I don’t really care if I get back to my old weight as long as I fit into my pants again.

And I actually managed to bike back here and go to dance class last night and bike home, so I got some exercise in.

I’m sooooooooooooooo looking forward to pizza tonight with dad.

I want to go camping though, I haven’t been in ages.

I used to have pizza pockets and stuff ALL the time but between trying to lose weight and eat healthier and dating my pirate I haven’t had a really good pizza in a while.

I just read this thing today on pizza baking:
http://www.seriouseats.com/2007/03/broiled-pizza.html

Head is all achy, I might go home early if dad gets there soon.

So nice to bike home in the daylight and spend more time with papa.

Ideas!

Friday, March 9th, 2007
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Some ideas inspired by talking with daddy last night I don’t want to forget:

When remodeling kitchen - consider opening it up to the living room, possibly completely changing layout - can expand into dining room also.

Find whimsical shaped hole punch and punch holes in the rice paper over the furnace vent for more air flow.

Wonderful Wednesday

Wednesday, March 7th, 2007
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I’m feeling much better today thankfully. My nose shifted from runny to just stopped up so it doesn’t feel raw anymore, and my headache has finally gone away. I went over all the various questions I had with my doctor and he was nice enough to get me drug samples to try out first for free. He said the asthma stuff is even known to help with allergies and that I should just try that at first and only add the allergy stuff if I’m still having trouble.

I took the bus home and got a bit of a walk in by accidentally getting off one stop too early. I was feeling well enough that I managed to keep my momentum up and just drop off my stuff and grab my dance shoes and bike back to campus for dance class. Class was fun as always, and funny as it often is. Samba and salsa also are fast enough to really get my heart rate up, so I got some needed exercise in.

Papa is coming tomorrow so I’m looking forward to getting to spend some time with him.

I also found out that if my back is bothering me I can just tense my abs up and it helps, which is easier than having to stretch it out.

Khalua may be crazy & evil, but she’s so cute and warm when she’s laying on top of me purring and kneeding & sucking on the blanket. Kitties make wonderful heat pads on cool nights.

The western redbuds along Putah Creek are flowering, so there are patches of hot pink clouds along the bike path now. And the magnolia trees with their giant pale pink and white blossoms look like out of proportion cherry trees.

From the October 2001 O magazine article “Life at the Peak” by Suzanne O’Malley:
“Instead of sitting at my desk from 9:30am to 6:30pm - working at one-third efficiency all day long - Jim had me work three 90-minute chunks. That was it. I doubled my output. It made me believe this principle of sprint and recovery really works.”

And THAT is why I so much want to either be my own boss, so I can work that way - and reclaim 3-4 hours a day! - or at least not be in a union position where I’m forced to work hourly instead of salaried.

Also from that article about the LGE Performance System:
Habits of Champions

  • Go to bed and wake up early (preferably 10:30pm and 5:30am, respectively). Studies show that seven to seven and a half hours of sleep per night is optimal in order to build, repair, and maintain the immune system and to repair tissue.
  • Eat three small meals and three small snacks a day. (A meal should be between 400-600 calories; a snack, between 100 and 200 calories.)
  • Drink 48 to 64 ounces of water a day.
  • Exercise 120 to 180 minutes, spread over the course of the week.
  • Take a break from whatever you’re doing every 90 minutes. Even a five minute walk will do; the point is to change your rhythm and reenergize yourself.

Other great quotes from the magazine:
“Things are always falling apart. You could be alarmed about that. Or you could look at it another way and say that thinga are always fresh, continually new.” - Pema Chodron

“The average human being thinks that happiness lies in stability, in tying up all the loose ends and having things under control. But actually, happiness lies in being able to relax with our true condition, which is basically fleeting, dynamic, fluid, not in any way solid, not in any way permanent. It’s transient by nature.” - Pema Chodron

Considering I’ve just started to look at and consider my control issues, this is HUGE, and great timing. I keep telling myself that once I take of this thing or that thing I’ll be able to relax and be less stressed, and I’ve been noticing that it has been seeming like one thing after the other for… I dunno, ages now. But that’s life! Life is one moment after another, and each brings something new to learn or deal with. I just need to evaluate how I deal with things and maybe learn to live in and enjoy the moment more.

Speaking of which, Khalua wants my lap, so I’m done for now!