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Getting Caught Up Again – 200+ email backlog

Sunday, March 2nd, 2008
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I finally have some time to clear out my mailbox and get somewhat up to date here. I think some of this I may have made time to blog about, but not all of it.

For wedding stuff scroll down to 11-16-2007.
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Why I want to telecommute

Friday, June 1st, 2007
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Or work half time for twice the pay (same net take home). From all the readily available work on this topic, I don’t think I’m alone in wanting to break free from being a wage slave. I want to be paid for my work, not for the time my butt is stuck in an office.

His 21st-century counterparts are an army of product researchers, academics and personal improvement gurus, who all agree we are frittering valuable minutes, hours and even entire days, though they can’t agree on how many.

American workers, on average, spend 45 hours a week at work, but describe 16 of those hours as “unproductive,” according to a study by Microsoft. America Online and Salary.com, in turn, determined that workers actually work a total of three days a week, wasting the other two. And Steve Pavlina, whose Web site (stevepavlina.com) describes him as a “personal development expert” and who keeps incremental logs of how he spends each working day, urging others to do the same, finds that we actually work only about 1.5 hours a day.

From: Time Wasted? Perhaps It’s Well Spent
NY Times, 5/31/07, By LISA BELKIN

More:

We are wasting time because we are working harder.

“The longer you work, the less efficient you are,” said Bob Kustka, the founder of Fusion Factor, a productivity and time-management consulting firm in Norwell, Mass. He says workers are like athletes in that they are most efficient in concentrated bursts.

And:

“The old thinking says ‘the longer it takes, the harder you’re working,” says Lynne Lancaster, a founder of BridgeWorks, a business consulting firm. “The new thinking is ‘if I know the job inside and out and I’m done faster than everyone else then why can’t I go home early?’ ”

And:

At the headquarters of Best Buy in Minneapolis, for instance, the hot policy of the moment is called ROWE, short for Results Only Work Environment.

There workers can come in at four or leave at noon, or head for the movies in the middle of the day, or not even show up at all. It’s the work that matters, not the method. And, not incidentally, both output and job satisfaction have jumped wherever ROWE is tried.

Love and Respect

Friday, June 1st, 2007
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From one of the columns I read regularly:

“Small moments of courtesy, gentleness and all that good stuff that rounds out your life together is the carefulness I have in mind. “Company manners” is one way to describe my idea of carefulness in love. To be used every single day, so it becomes normalcy. When love and respect are everyday parts of the relationship, careful relating is a seamless result.”

From:
Handle With Care
on Single File by Susan Deitz

That really captures my thoughts about why my friends and family are the ones I should treat with the most courtesy, be the most polite to. It’s a way of showing my respect and appreciation for them. But also, its the kind of person I want to be. I want to be able to show respect to any and all that I meet, and if I don’t practice it daily, with those who surround me, then it won’t come naturally.

Quote of the day

Wednesday, May 30th, 2007
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Zen master who, asked if his practice of self-insight had enabled him to work miracles, replied, “My miracle is, I eat when I’m hungry, I sleep when I’m tired.”

From the article:
A Psychology of the Miraculous
By:Marc Barasch

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The Great Turtle Race!

Tuesday, April 17th, 2007
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TC sent these links. Pretty cool!

From the Great Turtle Race site:

“We’re doing this “race” to raise awareness and invite donations to protect leatherback turtles on Playa Grande’s beaches and along the turtles’ migration paths in the ocean. These amazing animals have been around 100 million years, but may have only 10 years left. I think the world needs to wake up to the issue and urgently help. As we say in the race theme, “They are going faster than you think.” – Dr. Jim Spotila, turtle researcher, professor at Drexel University and president of the Leatherback Trust

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Catching up

Monday, April 16th, 2007
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By reviewing emails. Had to miss game day March 24th to go home and spend some time with family. Got to meet my to-be-step-sister’s new daschound puppies. Sooo cute! And I went to church to see mom play her flute, and it was good to say hi to people I’ve known since I was little. I also looked around a lot getting ideas for mom’s wedding & reception.

I found an online board game, but I suck at the mini games: http://www.gettheglass.com/

I’m having fun playing FF12 with my pirate, I like the stuff that bores him like running around talking and shopping, and he likes the stuff that frustrates me like fighting. It’s nice to actually get to follow a story all the way through. I think we might play FFX after we finally finish FF12.

MM suggested FFX and I couldn’t resist the Viera & bunny moogles in FF12. And since my pirate had never played any of the FF stuff it seemed like a decent idea for a present. I’m just glad he’s willing to do side quests when I’m busy so I don’t miss the story line.

Great line from a friend’s blog:
“She understood that a prayer was a projection of will, the wanting of a thing was like a wish, a desire, the focus of energy toward a goal or purpose or hope. It really didn’t matter what you called it, the substance of the matter was all the same.”

It really ties in to what I’ve been talking about with my dad. Some of the same principles in the book/movie “The Secret.”

Talking with my cousin about our pets:

Very cool! Mr. Tripudio Gecko! Trip for short. They’re pretty neat to watch when the shed too, my bio teacher used to have a pair of Gecko’s. Not the friendly sort sadly so we didn’t get to hold them.

lizards are great, but my cats would try to eat it if I got one.

Hamsters are soooo cute, but Khalua is way to evil to trust around anything small and crunchy.

I also found out my cousin and her husband are on the same WoW server as me:

funny enough I logged on with my new Draenei Adiala last night to look for you and /who’d your guild. Of the four on I randomly managed to pick the redhead who was one of your husband’s groomsmen to ask if you two were on. He asked how I knew it was him and I told him it was sheer luck.

Dad sent me an adorable card for my birthday. My pirate took me to lunch at Crepeville for a strawberry chocolate crepe (they changed how they make it and it isn’t quite as fabulous as before) I went out for drinks and dessert at BJ’s with a bunch of friends on my birthday, and mom and my brother came up on Saturday and took me and my pirate out for lunch (Sudwerk’s new menu is yummy!).

I’m really starting to get into the racquetball & climbing. Though we just do volleys with the racquetball and don’t worry about scoring. I can’t play for more than 30 minutes though before my head starts to hurt, so I think we’re gonna try out tennis soon if my pirate can find his second racket.

April 3 – House finally completely officially sold!

Random tidbit you really don’t want to know but I’m going to share anyway:
Saw on History Channel that castles sometimes flushed their waste into the moat to discourage invaders. GROSSSSS. I’d say that would discourage me! Moat monsters can be killed… but sewage is not something easy to remove!

My fingernails are turning blue from cold in my office today, but I’ve been getting stuff done. Though I just found this awesome game:
http://www.adultswim.com/games/fiveMinutes/index.html
But mute the speakers if you try playing it! It starts with music and even if you turn it of there are sound effects….

Actually electric fingerless gloves would be perfect, since my sweater keeps me reasonably warm, I just can’t type wearing gloves.

Sign up for your free scoop! I just got my coupon for mine yesterday. :D
http://www.baskinrobbins.com/BDayClub/

I’m finally starting to get my product sale site together:
http://curlieq.com
Just working on linking to my cafepress stuff for now, then I need to take pictures/scan the stuff I have at home to list for sale.

Me + parties or any large groups of people:

I like parties, but parties make me tired/stressed/strung out/wound up/over stimulated.
To deal with the over stimulation I need to A) nap or B) be close to a friend
I prefer option A when at my own house or a friend’s that I’m comfortable in.
When I have to resort to option B, the more people I can spread that around to, the better. Otherwise I follow the one person I know around the whole time (and then worry that they’re are/will get bored or annoyed with me).

Many people = energy drain for me. It can be fun, but it’s always tiring. Anywhere there are lots of people. Most things are short enough that it doesn’t matter, but parties that last all day are hard. I just don’t like showing up late, or having to leave early when things are getting fun/relaxed later on, so I end up napping on the sofa or zoning out for a bit.

Until writing this I didn’t realize how often I really do use option A now. And it’s not really due to shyness, it’s that large groups of people are just really overstimulating for me. I’d follow my friend around for option B, but then I’d talk to whoever we ended up near with no problem.

Major thing for me to work on: I need to actually tell people my needs instead of just using people to fulfill them and get their permission. And two, I need to stop trying to do what I think people would want, without actually asking what they want.

This gorgeous weather is making it so hard to work, I want to go outside and lay in the grass.

trying to resist the evilly delicious birthday vanilla vanilla cupcakes with frosting & sprinkles Princess SP made and had JP sneak onto my desk before I got in this morning. I’ve already had two. I’m going to need to run up and down some stairs or something.

My pirate and I got some swimming and tennis in on Sunday, and I managed to get sunburned.

A cat that rides the bus, pretty amazing: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=447527&in_page_id=1770

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April 10 – I woke up with a killer headache, that I haven’t managed to quite kill off. But I did order my dishwasher! I can’t wait till it shows up and I can give the kitchen a good scrub down.

Meow came over last night and we hung out for a while which was nice. I still miss seeing him every day. I can’t wait till they finish building the rest of the offices.

I finally got the batteries in my swiffer wetjet though, it’s awesome. Way less mess than a mop and bucket. I scrubbed down the master bathroom kitty stuff and floors this weekend.

I found a free staff development yoga class I’m gonna sign up for. I hope they have room!

Dance class last night was good. Then the teacher invited me to join her dance teacher certification program, which I would LOVE to do, but it’s $450 a month for 16 months. So I really can’t do it now. I’ll just have to hope that she has space and decides to run it again in a couple years when I have my debt paid off. I’m getting my dishwasher Monday though. Woohoo! And we’re going climbing again tonight. Oh, and since I had two hours to kill till class, Meow & I walked down to the farmers market, there is some stuff I want to go pick up on Saturday.

My boss took me out to lunch for my birthday since he missed it last week, so that was nice. Finally tried out Village Bakery’s pizza. It’s good, but it isn’t all that. That one in the bay area that JL loves is much better. I just can’t recall the name.

my psychiatrist called back, so I get to go see him tomorrow during lunch to see about changing up my meds. My night one is not working so well, and I don’t think I need my morning one, so I want to cut the one and double the other. Not sleeping well is pretty much the main thing left to mess with my head at this point.

I’m halving my morning one and doubling my night one and then gotta check back in two weeks.

I love shopping with my mom, it’s our #1 mother-daughter activity I think.

Well, that’s all the tidbits from email, from oldest down to newest. I should probably clean it up some if I ever get around to it.

Spring Catch-up

Friday, March 23rd, 2007
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First a PSA: Pet food recall – see the list of products recalled.

Random tid-bits:

I forgot to link to the site after watching An Inconvenient Truth, so here is their Take Action page (the home page is noisy).

Laser engraving on laptops. Looks neat and sturdier than stickers, but not good for those of us who change their minds a lot. Plus it’s not cheap.

Mac Laptop = Cat Toy video. Thankfully my cats aren’t like this… I don’t think.

More of the monster/ugly dolls.

Uploaded 138 or 139 new photos: http://www.flickr.com/photos/liata/


Mar 20:Went to dinner at Dos with one of HK’s coworker friends and then put away laundry and did dishes and HK took out the trash and recycling for me. So nice not to walk out and see the kitchen and go “Ugh!” I’m definitely putting some of the house profit toward a dishwasher, it’s just not worth the time and stress of hand washing everything. And I probably waste hot water doing it myself anyway. I really like how the new curtains on the sliding glass door turned out, though I think I want to add a few more panels at some point.Mar 19:This guy’s stuff has been around for a while, but since I can’t find the original video I saw, here’s another: http://studio.vpod.tv/loiclemeur/135867

Also, I hate the time changes, they always mess up my sleep schedule. Slowly getting back on track. I smelled brownies walking back to my office and now I’m craving them. Thankfully I have hot chocolate mix (and chili, nutmeg & cinnamon to add to it).

I got a lot done this weekend, cleaned up my piles of paperwork, finally got the curtains up with HK’s help and a few loads of laundry. That plus much napping & relaxing which is the main thing I needed. HK & I went to Johnny Carrino’s in Natomas after his haircut Friday, but we filled up on bread and soup and ended up eating the leftovers the rest of the weekend. The asthma pill (Singulair) is working hella good and my allergies seem to have settled down without taking the Clartin stuff, yippee!

And! Good news! My house might actually close before April after all which would be awesome. One less mortgage payment to pay. :D

Mar 17:

This sounds fun: Spring Party on Saturday 4/14/07…All you can drink beer and Margaritas, Fresh Mexican food, Wonderbread 5, DJ Rigatoni, Mechanical Bull and Gladiator Style Jousting….all for $35 and all proceeds go to local children’s charities!! Go to www.awildnightincabo.com.

Mar 16:

My office is so cold. I’m thinking of bringing in a throw or something. Rugs would be good if I had any. I have a space heater, but I blew the circuit the time I moved it to another plug to get it under my desk. An electric blanket would work better. I wouldn’t lose all my warm air every time my boss pops in and doesn’t shut the door most of the way behind him.

Mar 15:

Painted my toenails pink at work during lunch, and managed to not smudge them, yay! Now I can actually wear sandals sometimes.

Mar 14:

Had a ton of weird dreams last night, which for me means I didn’t sleep soundly at all or I wouldn’t remember. Probably why I was so tired this morning.

I forgot to check the racquetball rules, so my pirate and I just goofed off hitting back and forth to each other since there was a free court last night. Good workout, but it did not help my headache. It was fun though, and my headache didn’t get too bad till the last 10 minutes ish.


Article stuffs
I used to read Psychology Today when I TA’d in my high school library all the time. Now I have it on my Google homepage so I’m back into reading it again. Just in case you’re wondering how I find this stuff:Hormones Got You Down?

Hormones may play a pivotal role in women’s maladies—including PMS, post-partum, and others.
By:Natasha Raymond”research shows it’s not just the psychological stress of aging, childbirth, or cramps that brings on the blues. It’s the physiological factor that ties them together—hormones.”"Hormones released by the ovaries—estrogen and progesterone—actually seem to influence the neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine, that are known to affect mood. Normally, estrogen blocks enzymes that break serotonin down, allowing more of the spirit-lifting substance to stay operative in the brain and act like an antidepressant. But before menstruation, after giving birth, and during menopause, when estrogen levels dip, serotonin levels plunge, too.”

Love Isn’t Blind

How to form an enduring bond. Healthy relationships are built on love and trust, commitment and intimacy.
By:Hara Estroff Marano

“These are the five bonding forces that form the glue of your relationship, he stresses. And here’s the catch—they must grow together in a balanced way. You must keep your heart and your head in harmony. So you never let one of the five forces too far ahead of your progress in any of the others.

* Know
* Trust
* Rely
* Commit
* Touch

In other words, says Van Epp, there’s a safe zone you need to stay within as your relationship grows. And the basic rule for staying in the safe zone is, never let the level of one bonding dynamic exceed the level of the previous one. “

Swallow Your Fear

Navigating risky situations teaches you about yourself, increases your self-confidence, and helps you better manage life’s inevitable uncertainties.
By:Jessica DuLong

“”It’s the heightened awareness in physical risk taking that’s so valuable,” says Michael Gass … “The limited stimulus field helps people weed out less important information.” In the face of danger, instinct takes over. Your attention becomes keenly focused on your body and your surroundings. ”

“Once you accomplish this, you realize that you are not a victim of your emotions, that you can override them if you want.”

“Just as shocking the muscles makes them grow stronger, confronting your fears makes you realize you can live with stress. “Any time you’re afraid to do something and you do it, it makes you stronger,” he says. “Even if you fail.”"

“”Physical risk taking is beneficial because it’s a consequential, obvious statement of what you’re able to do,” says Gass. And the ability to handle adversity can generalize into the less dangerous—but no less fraught—realms of personal and professional life. It was Stanford researcher Albert Bandura who first articulated the idea that greater feelings of self-efficacy produce increased effort and persistence on a task and, ultimately, a higher level of performance.”

“Self-determination in the face of uncertainty helps develop a strong sense of self. ”

“”The more practice you have in situations where you have to make rapid decisions with great consequence, the more likely you are to be able to act rather than freeze,” says Cline.”


I find evolutionary psychology fascinating! I took a class on environmental psychology that covered some of it and really enjoyed the class. Article:The Orgasm Wars

Evolutionary biologists think female orgasms may pick the best sperm.
By:PT Staff”They discovered that when a woman climaxes any time between a minute before to 45 minutes after her lover ejaculates, she retains significantly more sperm than she does after nonorgasmic sex. When her orgasm precedes her male’s by more than a minute, or when she does not have an orgasm, little sperm is retained. “”In their studies, women consistently identify as most attractive males whose faces (and other body parts) are most symmetrical.”"A large and growing body of medical literature documents that symmetrical people are physically and psychologically healthier than their less symmetrical counterparts.”

“those whose partners were most symmetrical enjoyed a significantly higher frequency of orgasms during sexual intercourse than did those with less symmetrical mates.”

“Of course, symmetry is a relative thing, and a relative rarity at that. No one is perfectly symmetrical, and very high symmetry scores were few and far between in this sample, as in others. In consolation, Thornhill and Gangestad point out that the differences they are measuring are subtle, and most require the use of calipers to detect.”

“Degree of women’s romantic attachment did not increase the frequency of orgasm! Nor did the sexual experience of either partner. Conventional wisdom holds that birth control and protection from disease up orgasm rates, since they allow women to feel more relaxed during intercourse. But no relationship emerged between female orgasm and the use of contraception.

Nor can the study results be explained by the possibility that the symmetrical males were dating especially uninhibited and orgasmic women. Their partners did not have more orgasms during foreplay or in other sexual activities. Male symmetry correlated with a high frequency of female orgasm only during copulation.”

“He points to the following results as among those we should take to heart:

o A woman’s capacity for orgasm depends not on her partner’s sexual skill but on her subconscious evaluation of his genetic merits.
o Women’s orgasm has little to do with love. Or experience.
o Good men are indeed hard to find.
o The men with the best genes make the worst mates.
o Women are no more built for monogamy than men are. They are designed to keep their options open.
o Women fake orgasm to divert a partner’s attention from their infidelities.”


Not terribly scientific, the comments are more interesting than the article:Female Gamers Have More Sex

“According to a survey conducted by Gametart, a game rental service in the UK, chicks who game get more lovin’ than those who don’t. Out of a sample of 200 ladies (or should that be “laid-ees”?), the ones who gamed got, erm, fragged 1.1 more times a week than those who didn’t.”


And from one of the columns I read that also happened to look at evolution’s effect:The Pig Picture
The Advice Goddess by Amy Alkon

“The truth is, as you suspected, straight guys just don’t have the filth and disarray vision that women and gay men do. Studies show gay men’s attention to environmental detail is similar to that of straight women, but in general, “the female brain takes in more sensory data than does the male,” writes brain researcher Michael Gurian in “What Could He Be Thinking?” How much more visual detail does the female brain take in? Well, in an object recall test by York University psychologists Irwin Silverman and Marion Eals, women remembered the name and placement of 70 percent more items than the men did.”"Men can be obsessive about detail, explains Gurian, but their mental and visual attention is usually single-minded and achievement-oriented. “”According to Silverman, Eals, and other researchers, a guy’s tendency to let his home become a pizza crust wilderness refuge probably traces back to our hunter-gatherer past. Men’s current visual and attentional strengths correspond to what would’ve made them successful hunters: the distance vision and mental focus needed to track and bring home dinner — instead of being eaten by what was supposed to be dinner. Women’s superior peripheral vision and ability to process detail would’ve helped them spot the family’s favorite edible plants in a big tangle of vegetation — while making sure the children weren’t playing in wildebeest traffic.

Culture or training may mitigate the modern man’s natural crud-blindness.”

Happy Pie/Pi/3.14 Day!

Wednesday, March 14th, 2007
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HomeTech ApartmentTherapy: Feel the Geeky Love: Happy Pi Day! Today’s date matches the first numbers of the venerable number that never ends: 3.14.

Cool coffee table design (though way more than I would consider paying) coffee table

News: Digital TV Transition Subsidies

To aid in the Digital TV transition, households with at least one TV set will be able to request up to two $40 coupons meant to subsidize the cost of purchasing digital to analog converter boxes. The converters are expected to cost around $50, but make sure you get in line quickly, applications for the first wave of coupons valued up to $990 milion will begin January 1, 2008…..and continue until there is no more money available. Somehow, we think that won’t take long.

- via the New York Times:

U.S. Sets Rules for Digital TV Payments
By BLOOMBERG NEWS
Published: March 13, 2007

The government will offer households as much as $80 each to help convert televisions to receive digital broadcasts under a $1.5 billion program.

Households with one or more TV sets can ask for as many as two $40 coupons as long as the first allotment, of $990 million, is not depleted, according to Commerce Department rules published yesterday. If the initial amount is inadequate, an extra $510 million in coupons may be offered to households without pay-TV service.

The subsidies are intended to help consumers prepare for the end of analog TV broadcasts in February 2009. After that, TVs without digital receivers will not be able to show over-the-air broadcasts.

Sets connected to cable TV and satellite systems will not need converters, the Commerce Department said.

Converters are expected to cost about $50 each, according to Congressional testimony. Households can apply for the coupons starting Jan. 1, 2008, the Commerce Department said. Retailers who want to participate in the program must apply for certification by March 31, 2008.

Wonderful Wednesday

Wednesday, March 7th, 2007
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I’m feeling much better today thankfully. My nose shifted from runny to just stopped up so it doesn’t feel raw anymore, and my headache has finally gone away. I went over all the various questions I had with my doctor and he was nice enough to get me drug samples to try out first for free. He said the asthma stuff is even known to help with allergies and that I should just try that at first and only add the allergy stuff if I’m still having trouble.

I took the bus home and got a bit of a walk in by accidentally getting off one stop too early. I was feeling well enough that I managed to keep my momentum up and just drop off my stuff and grab my dance shoes and bike back to campus for dance class. Class was fun as always, and funny as it often is. Samba and salsa also are fast enough to really get my heart rate up, so I got some needed exercise in.

Papa is coming tomorrow so I’m looking forward to getting to spend some time with him.

I also found out that if my back is bothering me I can just tense my abs up and it helps, which is easier than having to stretch it out.

Khalua may be crazy & evil, but she’s so cute and warm when she’s laying on top of me purring and kneeding & sucking on the blanket. Kitties make wonderful heat pads on cool nights.

The western redbuds along Putah Creek are flowering, so there are patches of hot pink clouds along the bike path now. And the magnolia trees with their giant pale pink and white blossoms look like out of proportion cherry trees.

From the October 2001 O magazine article “Life at the Peak” by Suzanne O’Malley:
“Instead of sitting at my desk from 9:30am to 6:30pm – working at one-third efficiency all day long – Jim had me work three 90-minute chunks. That was it. I doubled my output. It made me believe this principle of sprint and recovery really works.”

And THAT is why I so much want to either be my own boss, so I can work that way – and reclaim 3-4 hours a day! – or at least not be in a union position where I’m forced to work hourly instead of salaried.

Also from that article about the LGE Performance System:
Habits of Champions

  • Go to bed and wake up early (preferably 10:30pm and 5:30am, respectively). Studies show that seven to seven and a half hours of sleep per night is optimal in order to build, repair, and maintain the immune system and to repair tissue.
  • Eat three small meals and three small snacks a day. (A meal should be between 400-600 calories; a snack, between 100 and 200 calories.)
  • Drink 48 to 64 ounces of water a day.
  • Exercise 120 to 180 minutes, spread over the course of the week.
  • Take a break from whatever you’re doing every 90 minutes. Even a five minute walk will do; the point is to change your rhythm and reenergize yourself.

Other great quotes from the magazine:
“Things are always falling apart. You could be alarmed about that. Or you could look at it another way and say that thinga are always fresh, continually new.” – Pema Chodron

“The average human being thinks that happiness lies in stability, in tying up all the loose ends and having things under control. But actually, happiness lies in being able to relax with our true condition, which is basically fleeting, dynamic, fluid, not in any way solid, not in any way permanent. It’s transient by nature.” – Pema Chodron

Considering I’ve just started to look at and consider my control issues, this is HUGE, and great timing. I keep telling myself that once I take of this thing or that thing I’ll be able to relax and be less stressed, and I’ve been noticing that it has been seeming like one thing after the other for… I dunno, ages now. But that’s life! Life is one moment after another, and each brings something new to learn or deal with. I just need to evaluate how I deal with things and maybe learn to live in and enjoy the moment more.

Speaking of which, Khalua wants my lap, so I’m done for now!

Touchy Tuesday

Tuesday, February 27th, 2007
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No word on the house yet. Had to wear my mules today since I kicked the tub faucet yesterday morning and sliced open my heel. Got my external drive and laptop back thanks to Meow picking them up on his way in. Just gotta reinstall my laptop, find a way of syncing my laptop and external drive and then start recovering my pictures. I grabbed the few I had up on cafepress. Flickr and Shutterfly will take longer since I have a LOT there. A lot of it is overlap, but not all of it. The only recipe I think I might have lost that I want to recover is the pepper cookie one from the Princess.

Some good articles on touch on Psychology Today:

You Can Touch This
A parent or infant’s touch can convey emotion as well as a facial expression or spoken word.

By: Matthew Hutson

“At birth, touch is the most developed sense. But scientists have always thought touch conveys only a general positive or negative affect. According to a paper in the journal Emotion, touch can communicate distinct emotions—about as well as faces or voices. People “expressed” 12 emotions to a stranger who had put his arm through a curtain. Recipients guessed six of the emotions well above chance, scoring between 48 and 83 percent. MC Hammer didn’t know what he was missing.”

Touching News
An interview with Tiffany Field, founder of Touch Research Institutes, explains why healing is all in our hands.
By: Nancy K. Dess

The good bits:

What are some of massage therapy’s important effects?

Babies gain more weight, sleep better and relate better to parents. Their brain waves indicate more alertness, and they learn faster. Kids with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or autism also become more attentive. MT alleviates depression, too. It decreases stress hormones and increases serotonin, the body’s own antidepressant. It also improves sleep. That relates, I think, to MT’s alleviation of pain syndromes, such as fibromyalgia and migraine, which seem to be exacerbated by sleep disorders.

MT also alters the immune system. In autoimmune problems such as asthma, lung functions improve and asthma attacks decrease. Immune cell counts improve in people with HIV. In a breast cancer study, natural killer cells are increasing, which is good, because they kill cancer cells. The list goes on.

Any practical advice to offer?

Everybody needs to either get massaged by a therapist or a significant other, or self-massage by doing yoga or using a long-handled shower brush. Being touched in this way is as important as proper diet and exercise, and should be part of one’s regular daily activities.

What happens when people don’t get their share of touch?

Touch deprivation impairs development. Romanian nursery children, for example, were stunted, and MT helped them grow. Interestingly, nonhuman animals that are touch-deprived not only lose weight but become aggressive. In a study of 49 non-industrialized cultures, groups showing physical affection toward children had little adult violence; in groups that were less affectionate to kids, adults were significantly more violent.

Bonobos, an ape closely related to us, live in intimate physical contact with each other—and they’re pacifists.

That’s fascinating. This principle seems to apply generally. In a study, we found that there exists more physical affection toward children and less aggression among adults in France than in the United States. The power of touch in our lives seems rooted in our nature, as individuals and as social beings.