When things attach, it means they connect. And connection is the purpose of existence.

Decades of research demonstrates that attachment styles are mutable, and that we form stable bonds by engaging in productive conflict with another person, and then repairing our connection in the wake of that conflict — not by having a perfect, unbroken attachment pattern inside us from the start.

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Modern-day attachment research also reveals that a person does not have one single attachment style, but rather a panoply of different attachments in their many different relationships. We can feel secure in our friendships but insecure in our romantic lives, warm around friends but frigid with our family, anxious with one partner and avoidant with another or a blend of both depending on the day. Our relationships also interact with and inform one another.

Devon Price

Thoughts on Jessica Fern’s Polysecure | by Devon Price | Oct, 2022 | Medium

The above quotes are sections from the review of the book Polysecure – not what I would normally be interested in, but Devon has done an amazing job focusing on the attachment parts and building on it. Rather than quoting all of it, I strongly suggest you go read it.