Connection is the purpose of life.

To connect we have to understand each other.

To understand each other we need to be able to focus and listen.

To focus and listen we need to care for our bodies and our health.

To care for our health we need air, water, food, sleep. To care for our health we have to listen to our bodies and connect with them first.

If we aren’t regulated, that means we haven’t cared for our body and the amygdala is in control to keep us safe.

If the amygdala is in control, we need to correct that.

Once that is corrected, things that help up remember how to focus and listen:

Raise your hand and wait to be called on to speak.

Once you start speaking hold up one finger so the other person(s) can tell if you just paused to gather your thoughts.

Before moving on to ask a new question, reflect back what the other person communicated to be sure you’re in alignment.

Start with something that lets the person know you are checking:

So what I’m hearing (different people have different hearing, could mishear) is…..

So what I think you’re saying is……

Correct me if I’m wrong, you…..