This gave me chills:
Psychologist debunks 8 myths of mass scale | Todd Rose (youtube.com)
Category Archives: EqualRights
A Diagnosis is Just a Label is Just a Tool
I’ve talked about labels before. Today I was thinking about how a diagnosis is just a medically recognized label.
Like any tool it can be used or not, and used well or poorly.
Another thing a diagnosis or label is, is language. It’s shorthand that allows those who understand it to skip past a lot of repetitive description. And like language it’s usage and meaning can and does change over time.
So, is your diagnosis limiting you? Or are you using it as a tool to liberate you and access support? The U.S. medical insurance system sucks, and working to improve it is definitely worthwhile. At the same time, understanding and figuring out how to work within the existing system might be necessary for many of us until change does happen.
Time Blindness
What Time Blindness is: Could You Be Time Blind? | Psychology Today
Ways that human society have changed that have removed the nature supports for people who are time blind:
- Developing electricity so that we’re no longer bound by the sun or lighting methods that visibly mark time by the consumption of fuel – like fires, candles and oil lamps.
- The development of suburbs so that not everyone lives within hearing distance of the bells on a clock tower to mark the hour both day and night.
- The development of digital and silent analog clocks so there is no longer an auditory cue of time passing.
It’s only in very recent human history that we’ve removed the supports that someone with time blindness used to be able to rely on. I’m not surprised that we’ve only recently figured out that some people are time blind. Honestly, I’m surprised that it isn’t the majority of people, but it’s likely tied into our circadian rhythms and we didn’t “invent” time, but rather invented a way to track and coordinate it.
Circle of Trust – Verify
My spouse pointed this out to me:
Female Science TikToker Asks Viewers to Stop Tagging Hank Green (insider.com)
I have thoughts.
First, yes, it sucks that people tagged Hank Green specifically instead of SciShow in general (which has female and male presenters).
Second, I know who Hank Green is and I don’t know who Ashley Williams is. It is natural to trust a familiar face.
Third, having a PhD does not mean you know what you are talking about (I have too many friends & relatives and funny stories). It also immediately has me thinking about the Dunning-Kruger effect and also an appeal to authority.
If people are asking for Hank Green/SciShow to explain – the next step is to ask WHY.
Is this a case of trust but verify? Do people want a second opinion to verify what Ashley is saying?
If the trust thing is not the issue, is it the explanation? Do the folks on SciShow explain things differently – faster? funnier? easier to understand?
Telling people to go do their own research is like tossing the problem back in their faces. If they could, they already would have. They are asking for something, and maybe asking the wrong question, but the way to get that to stop is to figure out the right question and answer it (NVC – find the need). Most people do not have the time or energy or ability to verify every piece of information. That explains why we build a network of trust to simplify. That’s how our brains work as well.
The simplest solution is to do a collaboration together with SciShow.
YouTubers I would trust and only verify if something sounded wrong (I experienced the sensation of cognitive dissonance in regard to something they say).
Jessica of How to ADHD
Therapy in a Nutshell
SciShow
Kurzgesagt
TEDed
Those are the ones I can recall off the top of my head without checking my subscriptions.
Language Matters
Is it a slur?
With all slurs, ask yourself: “Where is the noun?”
“Person” or another person word like “adult” or “someone” should always be the noun. The condition itself should never be the noun.
“I have ADHD.” The noun here is “I”, a person. If someone says, “Look at that <slur>”, the noun is <slur>. That’s what makes it dehumanizing. Instead of being recognized as a complex being that includes a trait, they are reduced down to nothing but the trait.
Cultural appropriation vs cultural appreciation?
Did you ask someone from that culture what their thoughts are? And by “ask” it means first do a web search to see if someone has already answered it.
Language does change and evolve as it is used in different ways. It can be a barrier or a bridge.
1. Tribe
2. Tipping Point
3. No can do
4. Guru
5. Hold down the fort
6. Ninja
7. Powwow
8. Off the reservation
9. Call a spade a spade
10. Indian Summer
11. Nitty gritty
12. Climbing the totem pole
12 Culturally Appropriative Words and Phrases To Stop Using Today – Yoga Journal
Examples of Cultural Appropriation and How to Avoid It | YourDictionary
Preferred Terms for Select Population Groups & Communities | Gateway to Health Communication | CDC
The Diversity & Inclusion Glossary [A List of 200+ Terms] | Ongig Blog
Inclusive Language Guidelines (apa.org)
stub – extract relevant part from: single word requests – Alternative terms to “Blacklist” and “Whitelist” – English Language & Usage Stack Exchange
Is she fine, or is she masking?
I keep meeting folks who have one kid diagnosed but other kids that aren’t. There is relatively strong evidence that it’s genetic/hereditary (Genetics of Autism Spectrum Disorders – PMC (nih.gov)) – enough that I’m not sure why folks aren’t told to automatically have all siblings evaluated.
I’m 42 and just now starting to figure out who I am and who I want to be, I spent so long masking so deeply that it’s taken over two and a half years to start to realize that I don’t need to do things I “should” to be “normal” or “fit in” – a recent example was telling my best friend that I don’t like eating at restaurants, most of them are sensory nightmares and that I would stay home and happily wait while the others went out. It’s so nice to be able to say no to things without feeling guilty or like I need to explain or give reasons.
Eye Contact and Listening
Things folks could learn to say:
I feel _________ when you don’t make eye contact when ________________ (I’m talking to you/you’re talking to me).
Uncomfortable, disrespected, ignored, irritated, insulted, angry, annoyed
Examples:
I feel ignored when you don’t make eye contact when I’m talking to you. Can you face toward me, and if not, is there another way you can let me know you are listening?
Responses:
I can orient my body toward you without eye contact.
I’m listening when I’m looking at this fidget.
I’m listening when <insert visual or auditory cue that you are listening>
I feel disrespected when you don’t make eye contact when I’m talking to you. Can you face toward me, and if not, is there another way you can let me know you are respecting my need for your attention?
Responses:
I can orient my body toward you without eye contact.
I’m paying attention when I’m looking at this fidget <or other visual or auditory cue>
I understand that you feel disrespected, and I would like you to respect my need to avoid eye contact. How can we compromise?
I feel uncomfortable when you don’t make eye contact when I’m talking to you. Can you look at me when I’m talking?
Responses:
I can orient my body toward you without eye contact.
I understand that you feel uncomfortable , and I feel uncomfortable with eye contact. How can we compromise?
I feel irritated/insulted/angry/annoyed when you don’t make eye contact when I’m talking to you. Can you look at me when I’m talking?
Responses:
I can orient my body toward you without eye contact.
I struggle with eye contact and it would be a kindness if you can be flexible with me.
I understand that lack of eye contact is viewed negatively in our culture. I’m trying to advocate for diversity by expressing my need to avoid eye contact in order to focus and listen.
I’m sorry, I understand that currently lack of eye contact is considered rude in our culture. I’m Autistic and eye contact is challenging for me. By being open with you, I’m hoping that we can be part of the change that helps our society become more open and tolerant of differences such as neurodiversity.
I understand the struggle when our communication needs aren’t met. Will you meet my communication needs?
Being on the same level is more important than eye contact (think sitting side by side facing the same way instead of towards each other, or those conversations that happen in vehicles) – come down to their level or bring them up to yours.
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Robert Saylor, a 26-year-old man with Down syndrome, sat in a movie theatre after having watched a movie, acting as if he was going to sit through the movie again without buying another ticket.
That prompted three police officers to kill him.
Friday, a grand jury determined that no crime was committed, even though his death was ruled a homicide.
What?
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Live and let wear
Choice
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“We are here because we love the young folks, and we want them to know that there is an older generation of brothers and sisters of all colors, who are willing to put their bodies on the line so that justice can roll down like water and righteousness like a mighty stream.”
— Cornel West before being arrested at Ferguson. (viawhitecolonialism)
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