5 times

Why 5 times? Our brains weighs information that triggers a stress response more heavily than other information. I don’t know about others, but I got my idea of 5 from the Gottman research.

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ECHO, Echo, echo…..

Echolalia is functional communication. It is often an indication of gestalt thinking, if you search for hyperlexia or hypernumeracy you might find more information.

Possible functions:

  • practicing verbal skills
  • auditory stimulation (stimming – it just sounds good)
  • communicating – if we’re not understanding, we’re not listening/paying enough attention or we need training

One example is my kiddo would say the exact same line if they thought that I wasn’t listening, or wasn’t understanding, or wasn’t giving the response they wanted/were looking for.

So now I’ll say:

“I’ve heard you say that multiple times now, did you miss my acknowledgement (either verbal or visual) or are you looking for a specific response or does it just sound good?”

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“Great, thanks for letting me know!”

Positive Affirmations: How & Why

Choose 3 affirmations and then take a couple minutes to recite each one 5 times each with intention and purpose. You can repeat them out-loud or inside your head.

Out loud is more reinforcing, you have the thought, the motion of speech and the auditory reception.

The way you will do is the best way for you. If you won’t say them out loud, in your head is better than not at all.

Reading gives you a visual.

Writing gives you a visual and the motion to reinforce it.

The more senses you can involve, the stronger the neural pathways will be.

What helps

Cognitive reappraisal:

Cognitive appraisal – Wikipedia – recommended by Heather Brown

EMDR:

What is EMDR? – EMDR Institute – EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING THERAPY

Workbook:

The Neurodivergent Friendly Workbook of DBT Skills: Wise, Sonny Jane: 9798799480684: Amazon.com: Books

Asking for and accepting help.

Think about how good it feels to help others – by accepting help you can allow the people who care about you enjoy that feeling.

Systems design: Meds

If something keeps going wrong, getting missed or skipped – pause and take a look at your system. It’s a sign that something isn’t working well. Does the system have too many dependencies? Does it not have a backup or failsafe?

To take my medications properly I’ve found that I need to prep them in advance.

Since 1 month is the maximum supply for my ADHD medication, I have enough pill cases that I can set up once a month and to reduce the number of times I have to refill.

So my new bottle is my cue to refill (and my backups are the recurring calendar item & Habitica task).

I keep everything in a lockbox so I can easily access it, move it around and keep it secure. It has a combo lock so I don’t have to worry about losing a key.

I also take Vitassium by SaltStick for my pots and Midodrine for when I don’t need the Adderall.

At night I take Zoloft/Sertraline and Claritin/Lortadine.

I’ve been transferring daily and that is not working, so I now have 7 individual cases that I can transfer to once weekly on Sunday. Then the night before I can just grab my case for the next day. So I’ll take my night meds and then put the case in my waist bag that I wear all day. That will help me take my meds first thing also since I won’t have to get up to get them. And then I’ll be forced to get up to get my protein shake (or I might have to set up a cooler bedside for overnight).

Jessica’s idea of putting her stuff online so she can always find it inspired me. Writing things up for myself I’d have a hard time doing, but doing it here where it might help someone else too is that one bit more of motivation and means I can keep things together and find them.

Hyperlexia

This is another stub to update.

I heard a very interesting thing this last week from Penelope Trunk, this is a paraphrase: females on the spectrum focus on words and language because it is comforting and makes sense. So we’ll read just about anything and we’ll re-read books (which almost no one does apparently?). That was definitely true for me. I only found out about hyperlexia from And Next Comes L – Hyperlexia Resources sometime between 2020 & 2022. And then I found out that I taught myself to read when I was 3. I have quite a few stories about my reading, but definitely I met VERY few books that I couldn’t read even if they were kinda meh.

I have always known I’m a visual thinker – I need to see an image or words to attach to a memory. Which is especially funny since I even more recently found out I have complete aphantasia.

I recently realized I was hoarding books in part due to poverty mindset paired with anxiety, but also because they were my friends during my childhood. And even if they made me mad or cry, they still were kinder to me than my peers.

I’ve also noticed that since starting anxiety meds I’m doing drastically less “pleasure” reading and being much more selective, so the idea that words/books/reading can be used as a coping tool seems very reasonable to me.

You’re not Autistic. Or HSP. Or anything except Human.

You’re a human with the environmentally sensitive neurotype & likely genotype.

If you have Autism – then you also are probably suffering from some number of these issuses:

  • epigenetic changes caused by illness, trauma, stress or inherited
  • nutrient deficiencies
  • attachment disfunction or trauma
  • sleep deprivation (tongue tie, nursing, chewing – effect of jaw development on airway)
  • impaired microbiome
  • poor interoception
  • poor proprioception
  • emotional neglect
  • convergence insufficiency
  • insufficient exercise
  • insufficient time in nature
  • Ehlers-Danlos
  • MTHFR mutations (add info on diet changes, when everyone ate liver, it didn’t matter)
  • probably other stuff I’ll add as I find

Your intellect, creativity, independence, etc. are all part of your neurotype, but if you can’t connect or communicate with others, that’s something you can work on and improve – and most likely therapy isn’t the way to start – figuring out your particular health problems and addressing those is. Starting with sleep.

With the rise of chemical farming, both chemical exposures and also lack of nutrients, Autism has increased. With the introduction of sugar and processed foods, Autism has risen.

There have always been Neurodivergent folks, they are the ones driving the advancement of society. And without Neurotypical folks, society would collapse. We’re in the process of fixing things by way of breaking them first to figure out how they work.

Before humans did things that worked, that were discovered by trial and error experimentation, but didn’t know why it worked. Examples being much of indigenous knowledge, and eastern knowledge.

The main example I know of is acupuncture & qi. Western medicine only recently realized that the fascia maps to the energy flow of qi. And sensory signals are energy flows/transfers.

Permaculture with its restorative agriculture that can restore the soil-food web and our health is also the solution for climate change. Human culture and the human race are evolving into a global community, and right now we’re suffering the growing pains. If we can learn to truly care for ourselves, then we’ll learn that to do so, we must care for others and our planet.