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Patreon

I’ve been trying to figure out how to get paid for coming up with ideas or problem solving.

I’ve been thinking about research funding and how problematic the current system is, and how it could be corrected. I was thinking Patreon might be the solution and I realized that it could be for me as well.

I have no intention of running ads on this site ever. I don’t want to sell e-books or put things behind a membership paywall, this information is too important. So I’ve made an account and if you can afford to support me, I’d appreciate it. There are also higher tiers on Patreon if you want to contact me to address something specific for you. While I have hundreds of ideas swirling around in my brain, I can only grab and output one at a time.

10/15/2022 I’ve disabled comments.

8/25/2024 I’ve turned comments back on but don’t plan to monitor them regularly.

If you’re really stuck and can’t figure out where to start unraveling your pain puzzle, you can connect with me through my Patreon. I understand this is somewhat of a paywall. I have to balance my need for self care with my desire to help others. By filtering this way I can allow contact in return for strengthening my foundation by allowing me to funnel that money to others who are willing and able to support me, so that I can in return focus on this system I’m trying to refine.

Anything that I document to solve an individual problem I will share (anonymized) here as well, so your contribution will unlock the information for anyone with the same problem.

Jennyusagi is creating ideas – for businesses, research and change. | Patreon

And for one time support I just added buymeacoffee (10/23/2022):

Jenny is Encouraging Curiosity, Community & Connection. (buymeacoffee.com)

My priorities right now are caring for myself, my child, my pets, my relationship, my community, my planet.

My garden projects address the self, child, community & planet priorities. I only have a limited amount of physical energy and time to work on the projects. By supporting me financially, it allows me to pay for help, which then frees up some of my time and energy.

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How do I get people to take my advice?

First I have a question – how do YOU feel when someone gives you unsolicited advice?

  • Patronized? (Mansplained)
  • Condescended to?
  • Defensive?
  • Criticized?
  • Angry?
  • Annoyed or irritated?
  • Appreciative?
  • Grateful?

If it’s more like the first ones and not the last two, why would someone else feel differently?

What would happen if instead you asked if they were open to you sharing ideas or your experience?

What if you respected if they weren’t ready to hear it, but at least they know you’re available if they want it?

What if you asked them what they think they need or what they want, and why they want it? Could you ask leading questions so they could figure things out on their own?

What would happen if you took your own advice first? What would it look like to be the change you want to see?

What are you missing if people aren’t listening to you? Are you not connecting first? Are you regulated? Are they?

Cassandra from Greek Mythology embodies the anguish of seeing the future and not being able to do anything about it. But it’s a misleading tale – we can do something about it, but not the thing that is easy for us – telling others.

We have to do the hard work of helping them see for themselves, or the even harder work of connecting with others so strongly that they trust us to be looking out for their best interests as well.

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helped someone else like I was

I think the start of things for me was looking into the Fragile X research being done at UC Davis and stumbling across a blog post that mentioned both Fragile X and Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome.

I searched Ehlers-Danlos to find out what that was…. and it was as transformative to my life and discovering Elain Aron’s work on Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs).

I post so that someone else might be helped the way I was to pay it forward.