Rage Inducing “Help”

I’ve been home since Jan. 3 and am finally starting to get a handle on the RAGE I felt when I got home after being “helped” – because what happened was not help cleaning up, it was taking away my agency and making decisions for me without asking me what my intentions were. And doing it in such a way that it could not be easily un-done. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, make sure you’re going the right way if you get to a one way door.

Don’t go through a one-way door unless you’re sure you never want to go back that way.

On the plus side hearing that my spouse understood it was wrong and stopped it from being worse than it was helped our relationship and to rebuild a bit of trust there.

Where does the money go?

I prefer to support local companies with really good customer service and happy employees. In general they are not the most cost saving, but the extra cost is more than worth the peace of mind and my time saved by not having to deal with problems.

  • SRY Construction
  • Edible Ecology
  • Organizing –
    • lily
    • other
  • gardener
  • Steve Stone
  • Hassler Heating & Air
  • Pelican Plumbing
  • Berkeley Honda (Eddie)
  • Mr. Mopps
  • TigerTechnologies
  • Sonic Internet
  • Swell Energy

Other things I support:

  • How to ADHD
  • WikiPedia
  • Shuumi
  • Yolo County SPCA
  • Epbot

Things I plan to support once I have funding:

  • PBS
  • TED Ed
  • SciShow
  • CrashCourse
  • Mark Rober
  • Kurzegast
  • Team Trees
  • Team Ocean
  • Verge Permaculture
  • Soil Food Web

I also use ThriveMarket for a good portion of our food and supplies. I backed them, Public Goods, Etee before they started which means I purchased a lifetime membership. I think even with the annual membership though they are worth using and supporting.

If you want to try them out, my referral code gets you 40% off your first order and gets me $40 in Thrive Cash (store credit): http://thrv.me/8gKsyi

I also like to support small businesses on Etsy.


I’ve been trying to figure out how to get paid for coming up with ideas or problem solving.

I’ve been thinking about research funding and how problematic the current system is, and how it could be corrected. I was thinking Patreon might be the solution and I realized that it could be for me as well.

I have no intention of running ads on this site ever. I don’t want to sell e-books or put things behind a membership paywall, this information is too important. So I’ve made an account and if you can afford to support me, I’d appreciate it. There are also higher tiers on Patreon if you want to contact me to address something specific for you. While I have hundreds of ideas swirling around in my brain, I can only grab and output one at a time.

I’ve disabled comments, but if you’re really stuck and can’t figure out where to start unraveling your pain puzzle, you can connect with me through my Patreon. I understand this is somewhat of a paywall. I have to balance my need for self care with my desire to help others. By filtering this way I can allow contact in return for strengthening my foundation by allowing me to funnel that money to others who are willing and able to support me, so that I can in return focus on this system I’m trying to refine.

Anything that I document to solve an individual problem I will share (anonymized) here as well, so your contribution will unlock the information for anyone with the same problem.

Jennyusagi is creating ideas – for businesses, research and change. | Patreon

And for one time support I just added buymeacoffee (10/23/2022):

Jenny is Encouraging Curiosity, Community & Connection. (buymeacoffee.com)

My priorities right now are caring for myself, my child, my pets, my relationship, my community, my planet.

My garden projects address the self, child, community & planet priorities. I only have a limited amount of physical energy and time to work on the projects. By supporting me financially, it allows me to pay for help, which then frees up some of my time and energy.